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Night Flowers

There seems something magical about flowers that come out in the late evening – night flowers. And the most fascinating for me are moon flowers. I received my first seed pod from a neighbor and threw it, according to her directions, on the ground in a window well. When the seed pod ripens, it turns brown and splits open, spilling black […]

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Anna Growing Up

Meet Anna. I met Anna when I went with her family to a datcha outside of St. Petersburg, Russia but she could be from anywhere. She is just pubescent, but has dreams of growing up. Anna’s mother is a friend of my daughters and when Olga invited us to visit, my daughter collected some prom and bridesmaid dresses from friends to […]

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The Sick Role: Restoring Our Health

In a previous blog, Being Sick & the Sick Role, I shared Parsons’ characteristics of the sick role that included: a) others recognize that the illness is involuntary, that getting sick was not the intention of the person who is sick; b) when people are sick they are exempted from their usual work, family, civic, and other obligations; c) they are expected to not want to be sick and to do what they can to restore their health; and d) are expected to seek competent help and to cooperate in the process of trying to get well.[i] These characteristics were identified to describe how life is expected to change for people who develop an acute illness and I believe that having a chronic illness leaves us in a very strange position of both needing to use the sick role, but also needing to strongly reject it. In this post I provide my perspective on the aspects of the sick role that involve not wanting to be sick, needing the help of others and working with the medical community to restore our health. The first, not wanting to be sick, seems self-evident to anyone who doesn’t feel well for whatever reason. I have to admit, in my BS days (Before Sickness), there could have been a few days when I wished I was sick so I didn’t have to go to work, or exaggerated a cold so I could stay home. […]

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Glorious Morning Glory

Morning Glories, I love them. But I find them very hard to grow in Michigan. They aren’t reliable. I can’t depend on them. Obviously this isn’t true of other places, as you will see by following the links below. One year they took over the porch, even latching onto my porch swing. They were so thick they were like a wall […]

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