A Different Kind of Valentine Love
The Bardo Group has invited all writers, poets, artists, photographers, musicians and other creatives to join them in a Valentine’s Day event, Bloggers in Planet Love. My work isn’t on the same level of the creative work of this great group but I am a blogger who loves this planet of ours and especially love capturing its beauty through photography. I am also in a love relationship that has been nurtured and grown for over 50 years.
J and I don’t celebrate Valentines Day – we don’t have to have a special day to show our love for each other. That happens every day because our love isn’t built on the gifts we give each other but on the respect we show and our enjoyment of each other. Besides we would prefer to support our relationship instead of participating in a meaningless consumerism that doesn’t support our healthy lifestyle or a healthy environment.
I find it irksome that this “holiday” was created for commercial reasons and hyped so strongly that people feel guilty if they don’t buy something for their sweetheart. The advertising must get to J because he starts asking me if I would like flowers or candy or jewelry a few weeks before these commercial holidays. I don’t like seeing him stressed because he feels he should buy something I don’t need. All I need is for him to make me laugh when things get tense, hold me when I need to cry, help me solve problems when life gets dicey, share in the work of living, and be a gentle, passionate lover.
J does all of this already and is the reason why I love him so much. But there is one more characteristics I love, his caring for the environment. We believe the scientific reports that our planet is in trouble but we feel helpless in solving the problem. It is a big problem that is mostly beyond our control but we aren’t putting our heads in the sand and we do small things like recycle and reduce our use of energy resources. We also pay attention to what politicians say about environmental issues so we can factor this into our voting decisions.
As I publish this post, I can smile because of the love that continues to bloom in my relationship with J and the beauty of these flowers that are growing in my dot on this planet. Both relationships and our planet need to be protected if we want to continue to enjoy the healing grace that comes from them. My next step in responsible citizenship is to expand my thinking about how my purchasing choices (and disposal of not-needed items) impacts other dots on our planet.
Categories: Thoughts about Life