Here’s Looking At You – And Us
Several people had told us that Snook Inn down on Marco Island is a good restaurant so we drove down last night. We were celebrating Natalia’s (our son’s significant other) birthday. We had a good seafood dinner in a very informal setting – which made it feel a bit overpriced. But the food was very good and we enjoyed our dining company. How wonderful it is to have adult children who have relationships with people we really enjoy.
One of the highlights was the pelican that was sitting and posing for us. Anyway that is what I told myself, even though his look told me he wasn’t so interested in looking down the lens of a camera.
Back to grown children and our changing family. It hasn’t always been easy – this changing family thing. For about 10 years we worked hard to enfold a spouse into our family but she didn’t know how to make it work for her. I think she was jealous of our son’s relationship with us. It was very painful before it was finally over. We never marry a person – we marry a whole family, for better or worse.
One daughter has been married for about a dozen years and we really enjoy her husband. We do a lot of sharing as his family is also important to them. Our other two children are in relationships that are, well strong. They all live in different cities but come to our house for holidays and special occasions. They feel like ours and we hope that they will eventually think of us as parents. We hope that they will get married but of course that is their decision. Natalia has two adolescent children and our love for them is growing, too. They are invited to all our family get-togethers.
I am so glad that our definition of family is flexible enough to let new people in. Our lives have been enriched by all who have touched us, even those who left a scar or two.